Mental Questions and Answers

I'm on Paxil 20mg. Does it really cause weight gain? What are other side effects?

I have an anxiety disorder...anything else I can do to calm it down? Take 40mg?

Answers: I was on Paxil -CR for a long time, and eventually went off of it because it did cause some weight gain. My eating habits certainly didn't help (lol) but my Dr. confirmed that the Paxil was part of it.
I loved my Paxil ...lol, it did help me.Ask your Dr. about trying a new script that may be comparable. Also your doc should be able to go over all the possible side effects with you.
I worked with my doc to do that.
Also, diet and exercise..as much as I resent it, do play a part in keeping fit.
Good luck!

lol...hey you look pretty happy to me.big grin there...but seriously anxiety disorder is something you should be having with a combination of meds and therapy.this is what i got told and im pursuing that as well to get the right treatment.

plus ive heard ativan is good for anxiety. you take it as an when you need it

It may cause weight gain. It is one of the side effects, but only a very small percentage of people suffer any significant side effects. Side effects can sound scary including such things as gastrointestinal problems, headaches, dizziness, etc.- the list is extensive, but often it is rare (e.g. 1/100).

Unfortunately at this stage in our knowledge, psychotropic medications are often a "trial and error" process in which you have to evaluate the benefits against possible adverse effects. The worse effect of the medication is to have no effect on your emotional distress, in which case there are others that you can try.

The best clinical outcomes are typically obtained by a combination of medication and therapy. There are many psychotherapeutic techniques that are very effective in reducing anxiety.

I was on paxil but went off because of weight gain. Does Wellburtin have the same side affect?

I was on Paxil for anxiety but it helped my hot flashes. I don't need the anxiety medication anymore but to help with the hot flashes is a must.

Answers: I've used both. Actually Welbutrin can make you lose weight but made me very irritable, I took it for a year when my dad died- BIG up side is You will be Extremely orgasmic- NO KIDDING! So, if your in a good relationship, he'll forgive your irritability! LOL
But be careful- I really was a bit psycho!
In the end... it was a thyroid issue. Get a tsh, t4 & MOST IMPORTANTLY Thyroid antibodies test. This may not be it, but if your antibodies are high it could cause panic/anxiety, hot flashes, depression & weight gain.
I encourage you to google Hypothyroidism and Hashimotos Disease.
GOOD LUCK TO YOU!

i haven't gained weight on welbutrin. i'm also on prozac with it though, so i don't know if it's the combination or not. i do have a lot of energy now, where i used to just lay in bed all day. and i haven't really noticed hot flashes like i used to.

good luck:)

Wellbutrin is an antianxiety drug my guy took it along with the patch to quit smoking and take the edge off his nervousness.
If you want something for hot flashes talk to your doctor.
Anxiety isn't causing the hot flashes. and vice versa.

Don't use Wellbutrin unless you want to stop smoking.
Yes, change in weight (loose or gain) is one of possible side effects.
Good luck!

Are you Narcisstic?

and Proud

Answers: Narcissism can be defined in different ways...
However, yes, happens quite often when I just stick to the mirror and stare at myself. Just a shape addiction like being involved to my own reflection.
In fact it doesnt mean that you are selfish. I can surely say that I am not.
Being proud? In some ways ,sure. Everyone is.

No.
But does not this question seem a little redundant? If you are a true narcisstic, of course you are proud. You think your great and always should be the center of attention.

not at all. i'm the kinda person that puts others b4 myself. wish i wasn't sometimes though

No.
Very low .

Everyone engages in some narcissistic behavior. Its when those behaviors become maladaptive that they pose a problem.

So, yes, I am narcissistic, but not to the extent that I am not able to determine when it is not in my best interest.

of course -NOW GIMMEE MY 10 points I am the ONLY ONE here that deserves lol

How to control over losing breath?

I do a job in an office. Whenever I am sitting on my chair and some girl comes to talk to me and stands very close to me to ask me something, I feel like difficulty in breathing and I cannot look in her face for a while. Why do I breath so heavily and what I can do to avoid it?

Answers: I think that you need to ask people to respect your space. And it sounds like you may possible have a bit of social anxiety disorder. Nothing that would affect your every day life, unless someone gets a bit too close and crowds you. It's pretty normal, and if you recognize that that's what's happening, you may be able to control it better. Good luck!!

Can some one help me? OCD?

Hi,

Ok so I just need to know what happens with people that have OCD, I know its compulsive but what actually makes them do the things they do so badly.

People tell me I have it because I have to do certain things but I get feelings (not voices) in my head saying I HAVE to do it, or someone will get hurt or I will...

Thanks xx

Answers: It's b/c they have anxiety about things. Instead of "i'm going to dinner with my family tonight it's gonna be great" someone with OCD thinks "omg im going to dinner, what if i'm late, what am i gonna wear, what if i spill something on me" and so on and so on.

Feeling that you have to do something in order to prevent bad things happening is a classic example of one type of OCD related behavior/thinking. My best friend has quite bad OCD. When we have talked about it in the past she has described an overwhelming feeling that something awful will happen if she doesn't do certain things everyday. She describes it as a feeling of impending doom which only eases after she has done these certain things. There are other forms of OCD too but this is just the one I know most about having lived with my friend for a while and seen what she goes through everyday.

Mental torture?

My mother mentally tortures me any chance she gets.. if it's calling me a whore, if it's calling me a liar, if it's arguing with me and saying that I do drugs... these are just a few things.. All this is influencing my desicions and it's making me think that I really am doing all those things.. and even if I make the TINIEST mistake I feel so dirty and guilty and ashamed... What should I do? How can I stop caring so much what she thinks of me? I honestly think that I'm going crazy.. this lead to smoking to relieve stress, and now I feel terrible for smoking.. now I honestly think that I will take drugs just for the hell of it, and to make the stress go away... HELP?!!

Answers: What to do? Not sure

What not to do?
Do not start on drugs/smoking. Even though it might relieve your stress for a while it's not a solution to your problem. It'll only end up as another problem. Even though your mother might be unreasonable about what you do, just taking drugs to make her mamd won't improve things in any way.

Any advice on the upcoming holiday season?

My mother recently passed away after a long fight with cancer. My sister and I were two of her primary caregivers, and now that she is gone there is a terrible void.
It has been hard enough but with the holidays approaching, I am dreading it. Just thinking about it makes me feel how raw I still am inside.
We've been invited to other places for the holidays, which is nice. But I would just assume stay curled up in my bed alone.
Any advice on how to get through the upcoming season?

Answers: I lost a 6 week old daughter right before my birthday last year and then at Thanksgiving and Christmas I felt like you do now. I had no desire to celebrate because I just kept thinking how she should be there having her first hollidays.
Honestly, I was on so much medication, I barely remember any of it. I was there with my family, but just going through the motions.
If you really feel like staying home in bed, then I would do that. Sometimes that's the only way I could make it to the next day was just to go to sleep. The only time I wasn't in agony was while I was sleeping.
As far as advice, I don't have much except do what you can, don't worry about what you can't do and forget about one day at a time...sometimes it's one breath at a time. Good luck.

I understand. I lost my husband and nothing is the same and I dread every holiday. It feels like there is no reason. This is grief. You are still grieving and we all do in our own way and time, It would be good to go to those places you were invited, and be around others, maybe even have a laugh or two. That would be good for you. My parents had a surprise birthday party for me one month after I lost my husband, it turned out well, but there is that void and it will be there for a long time. I didn't want to put up a tree last year or anything. But my daughter did it for him and to make it feel a little like Xmas, he always liked it and sometimes we try to do things we know he would like, would she like you to go??
Yes you are still raw and it is a journey we all have to face sometime in our lives, take it day by day and step by step.
Don't stay in the bed it only makes you more depressed.
Hope this helps..xx

Well,i think that you should accept some of those invites! It will change your surrowndings.Being with family or friends could help you to enjoy your self,even if only slightly, much more than if you were at home,with all the memories swimming around inside you.
Im not saying that it will make you feel ok again.The fact is you probably wont but it may take your mind of things.Also if your mother was still here she would want you to be in good company and enjoy the upscoming season. Talk things over with your sister,that may help you feel better.Having some sort of thearpy may also help calm the feelings you are facing.
Good luck. I hope you get through the rough times. X

YOUR MOTHER WOULD WANT YOU TO CONTINUE LIVING AND BE HAPPY
honor her wishes!

Can anyone help me deal with the death of my grandma?

I'll try to keep it short.

I was very close to me grandma. She helped raise me. Her and my mom had always lived together until my grandma had to go to a nursing home earlier this year because my mom couldn't take care of her anymore.

I was out of town when she died. I had major surgery on 10/19 and she died on 10/22. I was still in the hospital recovering. She was buried on the 24th and I didn't come home until the 26th. I missed it all, but I know she would have wanted me to take care of myself.

I think it all hit me on Sunday. I cried all day and I can't seem to stop. My mom and husband have gone back to work and my kids have gone back to school and I'm stuck at home alone recovering.

All I do is think about my grandma and the fact that my mom more than anyone has lost such a huge part of her life. I feel so bad for my mom and I don't know how to make it better for her, myself or anyone else. I feel like the one thing that has always held us together is gone

Answers: She will always be with you all in your memories of her, talk about her often and always remember the good times. You are all lucky to have had someone so irreplaceable in your life, think of it as a gift to have known her.

the pain you all feel is the price you pay for loving her * *

it sounds like your really depress right now but you've got to remember that it takes time to heal. when morning her death you should also remember all the good experiences you had, and closeness of you and your grandmother... think about all the that she taught you and the experiences you two shared, the happy times and when you two laughed and smiled. maybe that might be able to lift your spirits a little..

Seriously worried?

I'm really concerned about my sister, she's 16 and has left school. She started college in September and also got her first job at a supermarket. It was all going great but she suddenly started getting panicing whenever she had to leave the house. This resulted in her giving up her job and dropping out of college. She's going back to college next year, but now she feels so useless and inferior. She's become very distant and has pushed a lot of her friends away. Also, she has trouble sleeping at night and sleeps a lot during the day. I don't know what to do, I want to help her. but I don't know what's wrong with her.

Answers: I used to become physically ill when I even looked at a car and thought about going somewhere...it can be a scary thing for your sister to be going through, that's for sure. This sounds a lot like Anxiety Attacks (which are different from panic attacks since they last longer and can be just as intense). I was diagnosed with anxiety and mild depression. Seeing a counselor/therapist really helped me a lot. They can help your sister figure out what her triggers are and can advise her on how to cope with these feelings. I am currently taking Effexor XR for my condition and things have changed completely for me...I feel normal again! Good luck with your sister! I know it's a scary place to be...

Sounds like anxiety/Panic attacks. Depression can be a secondary symptom. Have her see a doctor this is a very common thing with people. It could all be as simple as her thyroids acting up or seretoin levels being off.

Good luck

That happened to my son when he was younger.
Took him to Dr's. and he was diagnosed with panic/anxiety attacks and depression.
He was put on medication for years and did get better with the med's and also a psychiatrist. He stopped taking his med's after he started getting older and he is fine now but occasionally starts to feel that feeling again. He is able to go out, hold a job and also has a beautiful little boy. It does take time but get her to a Dr. who can put her on and monitor her med's and it would be recommended to talk to maybe get her in therapy just to find the 'root of the problem'.
My son's problem stemmed back from his biological father abandoning him and his sister.

she is only 16, think about how she must feel being away from home and stuck in a place with people older than her. it must be terrifying. they go out, she cant, they may not be nice to her because she is so young. she has a hard time fitting in. and on top of that she has her first job, i know i was so nervous at my first job, i was a young bloomer just like her, and i took everything i did very seriously, if i messed up it hit me soooo hard. i started college at 17, i couldnt even buy a pack of cigarettes much less go out with everyone. i stuck through it, but had a small nervous break down at least once a week. i know how she feels, what she needs is someone to talk to, and not only family, there are some things you dont want to tell your family. i felt so inferior at college and i over worried about everything, but i was supposed to be the strong one in my families eyes, so when they asked why i was upset i would just say stress about school work, but it was really the fear of facing all my new peers, and my new boss. she needs to have a talk at least once a week with a counselor. i wish your family the best.

Am I going nuts? Is it rly possible?

Ok so yesterday a guyfrnd came over and I met him not far away from my house. I met him at a place where all our neighbours could see us (so it wasn't like we could do anything wrong). Anyways my mom yelled me infront of him and I now I feel like I'm rly LOSING IT.
I was nvr so humiliated before. My mom treats me like a little girl and I feel as if I'm literally going crazy. She always wants to control me (I'm 18). She always talks to me like I have to be controlled (I'm not even the ''wild type'')

I went to the library today with swollen eyes of crying. And I'm about to go to school with swollen eyes again WITHOUT caring what ppl might say or think.

So my question is : IS IT RLY POSSIBLE TO START LOSING YOUR MIND AFTER GETTING MENTALLY TORTURED?

Answers: No, it is not impossible to feel like you are not in touch with reality when you are facing mental anguish like you have discribed. Have you tried to speak with your mother about how you feel? If you have and it didn't work, have you thought about moving out? Another option for you would be to talk to a therapist or counselor (even if it's a school or church counselor) about how you feel. You would be surprised how liberating talking about it with a professional can be. You can also learn techniques for dealing with your mother, if moving out and talking to her are not options for you. I would really recommend talking with someone professionally. Good luck!

That situation is unfortunate...but it's normal for an 18 years old and parent. Most parents try to be conrolling.well...maybe not TRY to be controlling.but they do.
Think about it.they made you..they love you.you came from them.you are part of them. Maybe they're over protective. Do you have a cell phone?.my mom put a lot more trust into me when I got a cell phone..that way she can call me and make sure I'm safe.

Yes it is possible. I'm still in therapy because of something very similar, and I'm 21. I would be happy to talk, or to listen, if you'd like to e-mail me.

It is time to move out on your own. Mother will never stop mothering you even when you are middle aged, she will still harp on you. The best way to buffer her is to get out on your own.

You're not crazy. Your reaction is a normal one. Your mom can't accept that you are grown and is trying to treat you like a child. A friend of mine went through similar emotions with her parent. He was trying to control her. The emotions you feel are real. I'm sorry I don't have much advice about what action you should take. Maybe some counseling?

ITP and aspergers?

do they have any connection? When i was 7 or 8 i was diagnosed with a very serious case of ITP, and now im a teenager and i've had a lot of problems in general. I read about ITP having a connection to autism so i was just thinking about it.

Answers: 26 minutes in and no answer yet-until now. Well I honestly don't know about that, but maybe an appt with your local doctor can tell you that. Make an appt with someone who can tell you the answer for sure.

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How can I feel better?

See, the problem is that I smoked.. well I just inhaled it once, a ciggy.. 'cause this guy that I love and am crazy after does it too.. I've smoked before too, it's not a first time thing, but now I feel so dirty for inhaling itt. Can someone please make me feel better.. I know it's a mistake, but how can I feel better about myself?

Answers: Get over it. People make mistakes. It was a learning experience. If that's the worst thing you do in your lifetime you'll be doing better than most.

you were immature to do something as stupid as following the bad habits of a guy you "loved".
be more mature and get over it.
move on.

lots of people smoke, it's not the end of the world. your not a bad person for smoking. but you shouldn't change for the person you love cause if they love you then they'll except you for what and who you are!
hope you feel better!

Learn from it, it happened and theres nothing you can do to take it back. Forgive yourself, now you know not to do it again, you should probably move on.

* If you have the urge to try everything someone else is doing, just be glad your bf isn't a crack or meth addict.

u could have done far worse... but if u feel really bad about it make a donation to a cancer research association.. i promised my girlfriend i would never smoke again and i kinda did a few days l8r so i just gave €50 to cancerresearchuk.. it sounds stupid but it makes u feel so much better about yourself

here's a virtual hug.

i hope this helped!

Don't worry- in seven years your lungs will look pink and new again. Exercise, stay away from people who smoke in front of you and move to a city where a person can't smoke in public places. I lived with a woman who smoked and soon after we broke up, I stopped smoking. HHHHmmmmmm?

Cheer up, we're all humans.

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