Mental Questions and Answers

Am I on my way to being an alcoholic?

Well, I never used to drink, at all.. And lately I have been feeling pretty down. I went to a friends place to watch a movie and he offered me a beer.. it tasted like crap.. But then I started drinking some Bacardi and then Smirnoff.. two weeks later I was going through a bottle of Grey Goose in a week.. I know that is extreme escalation, but I don't even know why I drink, it does clear my head but I know there has to be something better for me..

Answers: It's really too soon to label you an alcoholic. But you are abusing alcohol, and that will lead you into trouble. Keep it up and eventually that trouble will lead you into alcoholism.

It'd be a heck of a lot better, and smarter of you to get help figuring out why you've been feeling down, and what you can do about those feelings. Good feelings to you.

Definitely not. Get back to us when you're drinking a bottle of Popov vodka at breakfast.
Drinking booze is not bad behaviour despite what the rightwing politically correct may say.

If you ask yourself that and are drinking a lot due to emotional stresses the answer is yes. Seek help before you hit your bottom or ruin your health or hurt yourself or someone else irrevocably. AA is not for everyone but it can at least help you recognize your triggers, it is at least a good place to start, or see your doctor. Good luck.

a fifth a week isn't an absurd amount. thats like two drinks a night. but if u start downing a half gallon a week or find urself drinking in the morning or when you are by urself, you could be on ur way to being an alchy. if i were u, i would buy some red wine and have a glass or two a day, u still get the effects of booze with the benefits of antioxidant and it helps relax u.

talk to someone(your parents) they will know what to do. if you don;t want to talk, find alchoholic programs. please don't become and alchoholic. it does no good whatsoever. my dad has became an alchoholic. He broke an expensive table, broke many chairs, smacked people at his work, insulted my mom and me, broke my xbox 360 with his foot, drove a car off a cliff. The thing is, he thinks that me and my siblings son't know about whats going on. He thinks that my mom has brainwashed us into thinking hes bad or something, so i told him that he did that himeself. If you are telling us your problem about drinking and it feels like the wrong thing to do, then the first thing to do would be to admit to yourself that you have a problem. then seek help. no one can force you to become alchohol free. only you could do that. From my experience, i don't think i ever want to drink alchohol. Please stop!

What medication do you recommend for depression with the least amount of side effects?

I used to be on Celexa and that worked great but my new insurance company will only pay for the generic brand and the side effects on that one were awful. With Celexa there were side effects too but they faded away and some completely went away. What have you tried that the side effects weren't bothersome and faded away after sometime?

Answers: TRY SOME ST. JOHN'S WORT AVAILABLE OTC FROM THE PHARMACY, SIDE EFFECTS ARE MUCH LESS THAN PHARMACEUTICALS.

Different meds work better for different people, but Zoloft worked the best for me, and the side effects were minimal and/or went away.

I tried 5-HTP and it actually made things worse.

Check with your doc, there are several - Prozac, lexapro
and many more
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What is a person that does not care who they hurt in the process of getting what they want?

this is a woman who is willing to mentaly hurt my sons to get at me

Answers: sociopath/psychopath

Bad at finding win win solutions, and don't care about kids feelings.

I really want to have a private lesson with my bellydance teacher-I'm afraid tho! Don't know what to do!

I would feel awkward cause I am awkward and self -conscious in some situations and I would be embarrassed if it were to show through my facade of greatness I try to portray to the outside world

Answers: Nobody feels confident all the time!

You have some "growing-up and maturing" to do within yourself. Real people show their real self, and their fumbles and imperfections. They get off the "pride" soap box presuming perfection. If you really were all that "great" you would have no need for the lessons.

You don't get what you want if you don't ask.

if this is for real then you just said the magic word...private..
but when you are finished..then eventualy you will have to go public..wouldnt you ?

Are there any of you young people that have been diagnosed with early onset bipolar disorder?

i have a 10 year old who has been diagnosed, and I just want to talk to someone who has personally been diagnosed, to see if anything besides meds, that I can do to help him.besides loving him too.

Answers: Hi. when I was 15, towards 16 I was diagnosed with the bipolar condition (I am 32 now) At that time I remember thinking something along the lines of "cool" if I was high or why me? if I was in the self pity stage. I had to use medication for a long while, but what helped me most was therapy, artistic theraphy. It kept me occupied and without really knowing it the thrapist was helping me a lot in terrms of self control and personal guidance, that and the drugs did help me. Hope it helps

im 17 almost 18 i was diagnosed at about 12 or 13

therapy and expressing feelings helps but unless its really mild bipolar medicine really is nesecarry

Most bipolars do fine in life with a good family unit.

http://www.mentaljokes.com/famous_manic.

If you do nothing else, learn and employ the lessons from "An Unquiet Mind". That book was written by a professional who has bipolar.

I know. You'll put off spending the 10 bucks for the book, pat yourself on the back, and believe that you did great things for your kid by asking a question on Yahoo.

No you didn't.

Lost friends because of drugs?

My boyfriends best friend was doing lines of coke in front of us, i panicked and called the police.
They never came round, but friends ave disowned me because they told me i did a terrible thing.
Please help. Its making me really stressed

Answers: in other people's opinions you may have over-reacted. However, if drugs are something that make you feel awkward then you did nothing wrong. There is no reason to associate with people that do things that make you feel uncomfortable or in danger. If you have been abandoned due to your personal belief it shows lack of respect on their part so it is up to you to consider whether they are truly your friends to begin with.

The best thing for you to do would have probably been to make an excuse and leave. Don't worry about ringing the police the guy was breaking the law. If your friends are heavily into drugs you would be best staying clear of them.
You are clearly annoyed by their behaviour make new friends who don't do drugs. Don't beat yourself when you have done nothing wrong. Take care.

i dont think you should have called the cops on them but you do need to cut them off..or at least not hang around them when they are doing drugs..but that always leaves you in the place where they could start doing drugs and you're kinda stuck and freakin out..like that instance. if you have tried explaining that you dont like what they are doing and they dont respect that then they dont respect you as a person and they are definately not worth your time ..do you really want to waste your time hanging out w/ these people that are just going to bring you down and get you nowhere and dont even care about you? there are plenty of cooler people to spend your time with..and about the b/f if he doesnt agree with you and isnt caring about your wellbeing and safety enough to not put you in those types of situations he definately needs to go.

Your friends disowned you because of this? That is awful! You had every right to do what you did and don't let anyone tell you otherwise. I wasn't there so I have no idea how well you handled the situation but doing cocaine is illegal and dangerous, it was unfair that you were put into a situation where you had to see this. Did they even ask if it was OK to do it in front of you? At the end of the day you can't stop people doing this but you certainly don't have to sit around and watch. I'd say it is a bad friend who would put you in that situation in the first place. I hope your boyfriend is sticking up for you honey, because you have seriously done nothing wrong.

In THEIR eyes you did do a terrible thing. But at least you have the sense not to. You really need to find better people to fill your life hun. I spent 20 years in the company of people like that. I saw it all. Tried it all, got the t-shirt. They'll never be any good for you.
What did your boyfriend say? If he was pissed off too then he needs to go as well.
Christ knows i always prefered those that were on drugs. Not necessarily the serious kind, but all the same. I could have a laugh. Fool around. But they werne't stable nor reliable. They didn't care about themselves, never mind me.
Now i have friends who DO care. Who are balanced within themselves and therefore give me a reason to be balanced within myself.

Personally i think that your bf should have been the one to deal with this problem.I am not into drugs but can control what ppl do in my home without calling the police.Firstly i would have spoken to the boyfriend and told him your thoughts,if he then did not do anything about it then i would have set a clear boundry that you dont do that at my home and then if i were to be ignored then i would take futher action.
As for them not being you friends anymore what have you lost some druggie "friends" who are not heading down the right track and could pull you down with them.In reality what you did do was a brave but also dangerous thing to do.Pll who take substances can get very irritated very easy and without warning you just called the police??Even if i had children in the house i would have set the boundry first.i dont understand why you are stressed at all.

You did the right thing. These people aren't really your friends, otherwise they wouldn't have treated you like this. Get out and about and make new drug-free friends. You really don't want to associate with drug users anyway,you might get labelled as a user yourself & they might have talked you into this nasty. disgusting habit.

You will find some good friends, so don't stress, you're better of without the drug users.

Take care of yourself & remember you have us as friends here on Yahoo. ;) x

Set your own limits in your comfort zone and be open and honest with anyone who violates them. I certainly would not stick around anybody that stupid, and if they were in my home I would call the cops right in front of them after i took several photos of them getting their high on. If I was in somebody else's home- I would just get up and leave. If my significant other wanted to stay-I would leave them there!

The friends that disowned you are not true friends! their priorities are messed up!

The only answer to this is that Time Is A Great Healer.
the obvious answer is just to talk to them: try to explain exactly as you have here, that you panicked. If they dont want to know you after that,and you still feel that they are worth a great deal to you - then you will just have to sit pretty and wait for time to bind its forgiveness.
It woudl be great to do as people haev said, and just forget them- but if you feel you cant, then there is nothing more you can do than keep explaining you was scared and hope that time makes them explain to you why they are doing it, and to forgive you.
Best luck x

nah you shouldnt get so stressed these things are gonna happen whether u like it or not.

Police import the drugs.

cocaine isn't one of them drugs that will just kill you anyway. If your mates start injecting heroin then its a different story.

You did the right thing. Coke is bad and can mess you up. Real friends don't stand by and watch their friends destroy their lives with drugs.

But there is a limit to what you can do. If your friends are going to insist on using drugs around you, then they're just dragging you down with them.

Have you talked to your parents about what happened? I think they should know, so they can give you some support.

maybe it's for the best. Might not feel like that now.

Do u have any addictions?

it can be legal or illegal

Answers: One person's addition is another person's work ethic.

We often use this term too indiscriminately. If we all were lumped into a category with no excessive behavior, little would be accomplished and there would be few to drive the train..hmmm, come to think of it, maybe a good thing.

Yes. Yes, Jes, I do.

If it weren't for addictions I'd have nothing to do.
Fortunately all my addictions are legal, otherwise I'd be in jail spending my time detoxing and doing absolutely nothing.

cigarettes.

Borderline Personality Disorder? Please help?

Ive just been diagnoased with BPD.I don't know what to do,i mean ive always had suspisions but now that its real im really confused.
I don't know where to go or what to do.I will be going to therapy to help me deal with this.But i don't know how i can get better when i don't really understand my disorder.When i have read about it,its like somebody is writting about me.My therapist says that it may take years until i can learn to live with it properly.I don't know what to do.
Please help me im so confussed and its making me so depressed. I know it probably sounds like nothing but, it is to me.Im kinda pathetic like that.

Answers: Don't panic sweetie pie. I've had depression for a long time and have a suspicion I may be bipolar but my doctor is a bit lazy so I might never be diagnose unless I do something about it myself.
If you feel panicky or anxious about anything then send me an email if you like, I'll be here for you if you need to talk. There's a website called moodcafe.co.uk I think that helps with depression and other mental disorders. I can't remember if that's the right address or not but you could try it.
It's not pathetic, and you're perfectly entitled to feel this way. Let me know if you ever want someone to moan at or just talk to. Take care :)

Hi there,
I have a diagnoses of this too. There are different degree's of it. Some people are very high functioning and some are low functioning. Please remember that this is a label. try not to get too worked up about it. you are still a valuable human being no matter what.
Most of what this label means is that we are very sensitive people and have a hard time controlling the way we feel.
We do not like to be alone, suffer from abandonment issues, and see things as all or nothing. People are good or bad to us. There is no in between.
Work with your therapist. I am in therapy too, and well, it is good, however I still am the same person, and still struggle with myself.
Your therapist should work with you at your own pace and not rush anything.
It will be OK. And please remember that you are not alone. Many people have the same illness. To me it is just a label and a way to lump certain behavioral characteristics a person displays. I am not big on this, and it is better not to focus on it.
Just continue to live your life and work on your issues, your still you.

I treat people with BPD and I have seen a lot of them grow tremendously and learn to deal with their feelings in ways that are safe. I completely respect what you're going through. Therapy should help a lot. Also check out Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) on the web, it's a therapy that has helped a lot of people with BPD. There is so much out there for you.

As for "it may take years," well, that means it may take years until you don't think about it all the time anymore. You'll have a lot of growth in the meantime. You'll be glad once you get into therapy, and you begin the process then. And all the time, you'll be gradually going in the right direction.

You're doing the right thing and you will get better if you choose to. It will be hard to stay on track because you'll get angry when others can't "take away" your bad feelings, but remember that you are in charge of yourself, nobody else is. You can do this.

What is the disorder House (in the medical tv show) has?

I'm asking because I used to work for someone who was that same way. It wasn't medical wise, but with the field we worked in. He would say somewhat hurtful things, but he had all the reasoning and thought to back it up.

Or.. is this even a condition or a new type of "normal"?

Answers: "Narcissist"... and no dear it's not normal... But strangely we do see it in a lot of CEO's and high powered professionals. I have a member of my family who suffers from this... it is very hard to maintain a healthy relationship as they are as you say hurtful without remorse, even when they say they are sorry they are truly not. All is done for their benefit. Dealing with this person is very difficult to say the least, it will take all your patience to achieve a decent working relationship. Perfection will be required, but it's perfection in their eyes...
I would think twice before working for someone with this disorder!

has muscle weakness/paralysis of sorts from an injury maybe

are ya talkin about his leg or his attitude...if the later,try obnoxious

the personality disorder is narcissism. a real condition where the bottom line is that the world revolves around them. it is very painful to be around and so important to be able to detect as early as possible.

Question about bipolar?

Ok a doctor said I have bipolar but I only get 'bipolar' symptoms if I'm on meds for depression or anxiety.

When I'm not on mental meds my mood never changes.

But the meds that caused those adverse side effects either made me manic or irritible/agitated.

So is it accurate in saying I don't have bipolar because I don't have bipolar(I never get manic and always been depressed and anxiety all my life) when I'm not on the mental medications.

Answers: yeah, maybe they dagnosed you incorrectly. usually takes a few times :|

That doesn't quite make sense.
You could have been diagnosed incorrectly.

Hypomania or mania is often a side effect of antidepressant medication.

Speak to your doctor.

I need to know everything I can about Cocaine addiction. Such as?

How does it feel? Why keep doing it, behaviors before, during, after? Why hurt the people you love? What would you do to get a hit? Is that the most important thing in your life? Do you put it first? How can someone help you quit?

Answers: I'm a recovering addict and have only recently found ways to keep myself clean. Although I wasn't just hooked on Coke, I did almost anything and everything, but the addictive personality is the same with any hardcore drug. Much of what's necessary to know about the addiction isn't readily understood until sometime after the addict has gotten away from that lifestyle for a period of time. It's important to always remember that each person is different and what works for one doesn't equate to the solution for the other. I didn't readily work the step by step programs and no longer attend meetings and I've still found ways to stay away. The most important thing I've found to start with is take it one day at a time and that simply means worrying about doing the right thing today, this helps to train your mind to start getting use to a new routine. Myself as many addicts as well make the mistake of trying to tackle the problem all at once. Remember you didn't start doing all of this over night but rather it built up steadily, likewise getting away from it should be no different. Having an addiction makes one feel powerless, or having no real control over their live's instead the preoccupied thinking of when your next hit will be takes over priorities. We keep on doing it because we've trained ourselves to cope with our problems by using and that's truly is the only thing we know. It is the perfect temporary fix for our negative minds because it takes us away from reality, but not for long. Negative thinking and regret over the ones we've hurt will always pain us, but instead of constantly beating ourselves up over this we should instead use our desire to use as our desire to rebound and be that much better. Let me be the first to tell you that once you can find a way to learn from this mistake you can really come back as a stronger person that what you were before. We hurt the ones we love unintentionally and deep down they know we weren't in our right minds under the influence and that really wasn't us talking it was the drug. The ones that truly love you will never turn away from you, but you can't expect them either to condone that kind of lifestyle where all they see is the addict slowly killing themselves. Addicts become excellent liars in that we'd find a will and a way to scrape up one hit of whatever. The biggest thing for me was to totally break any connection that I had, such as association by people & places so that you're not exposed to it. What you're not exposed to can not hurt you. Maybe even getting rid of your phone numbers or cell phone and replacing it with a new one is the answer. Good friends can aid in an addicts recovery but the first thing is you have to want to stop it yourself or else all the help will be for nothing. The first few weeks, months and possibly year or two will be full of roller coaster up and down, good and bad days. It's important to take what good you can from the good and put the bad behind you, it is normal to relapse but should not be used as an excuse to use again. Breaking free from one drug involves many times breaking free from all. In my case I left everything else and just stuck to pot and alcohol, that was only a temporary solution. When your state of mind is altered you will always be at a higher risk of being influenced by another person or your own mind to justify using just one more time. In time we addicts will and must learn to substitute our addictions with ones that aren't harmful, but instead upbuilding. As I said earlier everyone's interests are different. In my case I strive to learn more about various subjects, I put the same effort I gave in finding dope now into my job and try to be the best I can. Too being married with two young kids gives me a lot of incentive to be a better man. Once you begin to please the ones you love it gets that much easier day by day to keep on doing the right thing. Even the recovering addicts that haven't used in years are still suseptible to falling back in the hole again, we all will continue to have good and bad days, it's just our attitude and the way we approach problems that will have the impact on our future. I hope this was helpful.

"Cocaine produces its pleasurable high by interfering with the brains pleasure centers where such chemicals as dopamine are produced. The drug traps an excess amount of dopamine in the brain, causing an elevated sense of well being. Cocaine acts as a stimulant to the body. In turn, the drug cause blood vessels to restrict, increases the bodys temperature, heart rate, and blood pressure, and cause the pupils to dilate. Cocaine also increases ones breathing rate. Cocaine causes such pleasurable effects as reduced fatigue, increased mental clarity, and a rush of energy. However, the more one takes cocaine, the less one feels its pleasurable effects, which causes the addict to take higher and higher doses of cocaine in an attempt to recapture the intensity of that initial high. In any case, a cocaine high does not last very long. The average high a user gets from snorting cocaine only lasts for 15-30 minutes. These highs are less intense, as it takes longer for the drug to be absorbed into the bloodstream when snorted. A smoking high, although more intense due to the rapidity in which the drug is absorbed into the bloodstream, lasts for an even shorter period of only about five to ten minutes . After the euphoric high comes the crashing low, in which the addict craves more of the drug and in larger doses."

My advice is to not experiment with this drug-- even once!

do a search on google about cocaine...it should lead you to websites about everything you are going to need!!

sorry! i didnt know you had already searched the net.i dont personally do coke, but my cousin does...she told me that it helped her loose a TON of weight, she is skinner now than ever before, and she said it helped her feel better about herself when she was high. it is highly addicitive, and she hasnt been able to quit on her own.now that she knows whats its like, she will take it whenever its available.its not something I personally would ever experiment with.

There is something that gets into your system that causes you to become addicted. It is much like a Religion as people become addicted to it. Cocaine also can make you into a person that is addicted to it like people are to Religion.
Most addictions including Religion can be resolved through programs that are available.
Nicotine is much harder to break away from than any other drug.

I've always been really shy, and often pretty tired, so doing cocaine helped me be loud and energetic, which was especially important at parties. I wanted to see people and talk to people and stay up until the end of the party--coke helped me do just that. It helped me study and get things done that I was usually too lazy to do.
Part of why I kept doing it was because it was there--I had it, so why not?--and doing it made me feel better--because after you stop doing it, you feel really bad--depressed, tired, etc. It was a great "pick me up." And logically, I knew it was a bad idea, because it was only a temporary solution, but at the same time, I just wanted it, and wanted to feel good for a little bit.
It was never the most important thing in my life, but I did neglect other responsibilities for it. I got away with it happily for a long time--its a very easy habit to hide, unlike other drugs like pot or heroin.
When my parents and friends DID find out, I felt like the worst person in the world. Yet I kept doing it--I just thought I needed it to be a better me.
I wouldn't do 'anything' to get a hit. I would steal money from my parents, but I would never sleep with anybody or hook up with anybody for it or anything like that.
I did end up quitting. Firstly, because my high school found out, and though I didn't get kicked out, I was definitly being "watched." My mom had me go to an outpatient rehab, which was great for a number of reasons--first of all, most of the people there were more addicted than I had ever been, and had really screwed up their lives, so I could see how my life might be if I continued to do the drug. Second of all, I got drug tested, so I really couldn't do it. And third of all, it taught me a lot of great, useful things.
I could have used afterwards, I suppose, or even during, but my parents knew and my friends knew, and they were hurting. I'm a good person at heart, and I could not stand to intentionally hurt those close to me.

I had a n ex who got hooked on cocaine it was horrible. H would borow money and make up excuses as to where it went. And he would never admit he was doing coke. Whenever I asked if he was doing it (because everyone else knew) he would blow up at me.
He was on probabtion, so for part of that he had to goto drug classes. There he learned how to break past the wall of denial, and that's when things get better.
DONT DO COKE, THERE IS NO HAPPY ENDING!!!

Coke is an insideous drug that can turn liars cheats and whores out of the most moral people on the planet!

What would I do to get a hit? Lie, cheat, and whore that's what!

Why hurt the people I love? Because I am sick-I had a jones for the stuff and had to have it at any cost! it had become my Goddess, lover, and eventually would have become my death!

Is it the most important thing? Do I put it first?
Not any more! I am fortunate to be free! But when I was in her cold grip I only cared about one thing, the next fix! The getting and using and finding ways to get more,...

How can someone help you quit?
My Family intervened, made me go to N.A. meetings, they didn't help at first cuz I couldn't get past the jones, couldn't be honest, my ego was erratic and way out of wack! I hid and lied and stole even more, caught a major felony case and got scared---still couldn't get clean. I went out on a week long run after stealing cash from Mom. My Dad met me in the hallway and told me I was going to get into a recovery house that night or I was going to be booted out of the family forever.
I did about 2 months in a recovery home, getting a solid foundation and getting past the withdrawals and the jones. Then went to work on finding out how twisted and sick I had become.Faced my most shameful moments, worked the 12 steps of recovery and came back to the world.
I still go to N.A.Meetings, trust God, work spiritual concepts in my life and get to live free!

It Isn't hard, you only have to change one thing,.EVERYTHING!

Anyone have these sometimes?

Hi,

Have you ever been tired and tried to fall asleep, and while you were you already started dreaming, then something startled you and you feel like you are falling? If you have, do you know why?

Answers: Yup, that's very common. Here's an article discussing possible causes: http://www.discovery.com/area/skinnyon/s...

Lmao! I have had that happen to me before, i think i like screamed! lol but anyways ya its not just you, another thing i had happen was i was dreaming i was a taking someones order in a resurant and i had there food on one of those platters. And i woke up and i was standing in the middle of my room with my hand up in the air like i was carrying the plater!! ha i was like laughing so hard i started crying lol. Just thought you would like to hear a funny story

Lots of Love, Sara

yes!...many times.it feels like my bed is moving and my body is just falling off the edge...then my leg twitches and i awake completely...it happens to me when i don't feel startled...really weird...but i don't know why it happens.maybe nerves or amout of energy..

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