Mental Questions and Answers

How does one get over someone who broke their heart?

Even after a lot of time has passed..even after therapy, self-help, moving on with life in every other way.

Answers: Find something to divert your attention whenever you start to think about the person.
If you sit around thinking about the person all the time, you will never get over them.
It's up to you at this point.

When I learn the answer to this question I will tell the world!

I think we just have to keep going everyday and let time pass and the pain with it? IDK

Depends how old you are and whther or not you were in a long term relationship

My best bet is to go out there and met new people it's the best thing you can do. Sitting at hoem and constantly thinking about the person won't help and sometimes therapy just makes you think about them more.Just meet new people if your in school to extra curricular activities. If your out of school go to some club or atr gallery etc. and meet new people to get your mindoff of things

You need to keep yourself occupied. Exercise and diet, classes of interest, reading, TV/movies, being with friends and family, vacations (if possible), etc. Keep up with the therapy and self-help...they do work, but not overnight.

If you have any talents (writing, art, musical, etc) USE THEM. If you can teach something to others--TEACH THEM. If there is a cause that is dear to your heart--VOLUNTEER your TIME to it!!

I know it takes what seems like forever, but have some (more) patience--things WILL work out. Just keep healthy and busy.

I had the same problem.You just have to push through this time. Get to meeting someone new.Weed out the undesirables.I think about my ex GF everyday going over what was said what could have changed it for the better ,mistakes made,good times,its hard but I did it.
Hugs to you.

It hurts...but each day it gets less, if you let yourself heal. Its just like any other wound...if you keep picking at it ...it will never heal.

Hearts are always slow to heal whether its from cutting or breaking. Give it more time...or find someone that has that healing touch.

Forgive him.

I found that when I was really hurt by someone.

I took a look at the emotions I was feeling and I replaced each one with the opposite emotion through prayer.

I prayed for the person who hurt me, and I prayed that God would replace the hurt with peace, I asked God to bless that person, to give me a sense of peace towards that person, and as I prayed that prayer, I felt the emptiness and the anger and hurt go away. The key here is to forgive that person and to focus on caring about the other person. When you do, it's amazing how that emptiness will be filled with joy once again.

It's definitely okay to care about that person, and by stopping the hurt and anger, you will allow healing and can move on with your life. But you have to be willing to give up the pain, and anger, the resentment, and the bitterness. Why this works is because you are focusing on the other person and lifting them up instead of focusing on your own hurt and needs.

When you finally let go, you will find that you will even be able to have a civilized and kind conversation with that person.

if you have done all you say you have, the only thing that i can suggest is to be on the look-out for a mental pick-me-up, such as another relationship..they are out there somewhere..could be good therapy just to search
(my opinion...not researched)

While the old adage "Out of sight...out of mind." might seem trite, if one removes any and all reminders of that "special someone" from their lives, this is a broad step in the right direction. This mean disposing of mementos, photos, books, Cd's, DVD's, etc. It means NOT going to---or past--the same locations (i.e.: restaurants, bars, etc.) which you used to frequent together. It means NOT going past his/her apartment, workplace, school, etc. It means NOT keeping in the same circle of friends, etc., and NOT asking ANY questions about, or engaging in ANY discussions about that special person. It means avoiding his/her family and friends. It means avoiding references in discussions to him/her, or your relationship, or your pain etc. Basically.it means doing your utmost to behave as if that person NEVER EXISTED. For many people it's somewhat akin to the person who keeps on picking off a scab to watch the wound bleed all over again. THEY CAN'T SEEM TO BE ABLE TO LEAVE IT ALONE!!

Sometimes we hold on to feelings because we are so afraid of feeling nothing. While I don't think we even realize this I think we at times hold on to old feelings just so we can feel something - anything - even if it hurts. Also - when you love someone deeply - when that love and those feelings are real it is almost impossible to not keep a tiny bit of that love with us. This is not such a bad thing - if - IF - we recognize it for what it is - a bit of left over memories that remind us of someone who is gone. However - in order to go on with our lives we must recognize that even with those residual memories we are capable of loving just as deeply just as strong and as wonderful as before. The most amazing thing is when you realize the new love you have may be stronger, deeper and most importantly, happier!

This bit of armchair therapy is only that - but I hope it helps. Best advice? Don't try to stop feeling - just understand how immense your capacity for love really is and open your heart.

I wish you many many blessings
God bless
fishergirl

Used to have excellent memory but now just forget stuff easily what should i do?

Answers: Normal aging and memory loss
Normal age-related memory loss doesn't prevent you from living a full and productive life. You just need more time to remember a name or the task you had set out to do. You're aware that you're forgetful and may even joke about it.

People with memory loss due to something other than normal aging, such as Alzheimer's disease, may feel that something's not quite right, but they're unable to pinpoint what's bothering them. Rather than call attention to a memory lapse, they may behave as if everything is fine.

Alzheimer's disease and memory loss
Memory loss associated with Alzheimer's gets worse over time, but it certainly is not the only symptom of the disease. Some of the earliest signs and symptoms of Alzheimer's disease include:

Asking the same questions repeatedly
Difficulty remembering common words when speaking
Mixing words up — saying "bed" instead of "table," for example
Being unable to complete familiar tasks, such as following a recipe
Misplacing items in inappropriate places, such as putting a wallet in the refrigerator
Getting lost while driving on familiar streets
Undergoing sudden changes in mood or behavior for no apparent reason
Becoming less able to follow directions
Reversible causes of memory loss
Many other medical problems cause symptoms similar to Alzheimer's. That's why it's so important to consult a doctor if you've noticed memory lapses or uncharacteristic mood swings in yourself or in someone close to you. The problem may be a potentially reversible illness, such as depression, a metabolic disorder such as hypothyroidism, a reaction to a drug, or a vitamin deficiency

There are so many activities that you can involve to boost your memory. Out of them meditation is considered the best. For more details refer this article:

http://ririanproject.com/2007/10/04/22-r...

lol to the guy above me ... um.I have to write everything down...the more muscles you use when you're trying to remember something the more likely you are to remember it. Say, you're studying and you read something, you'd be more likely to remember it if you read it outloud, or even more likely if you read it, read it outloud, then write it down.

plus you'd have it written down...so you could read it later if you forget anyway.

>> Ginko & Fish Oil are supposed to help with improving memory. Try some crosswords/brainteasers ~ the brain/mind is like a muscle ~ The more challenges we give it, the stronger it will be. Maybe a doctors checkup may help also.
Ciao!

well, it would depend on your age...if you are older, such as 60+, you may need to see a doc about beginning stages of alheizmers or dementia. if you are younger...there are home remedies (check online or with your doctor) and there are over-the-counter medicines that can help. i am 25, and with all the stress i am under, i have increasingly began to forget things. it happens. go to a nutritional store and ask them, they have supplements that can improve memory...good luck.

The important thing is to be calm. Don't be nervous. Don't think in sexual or love affairs if you are student or doing research. Refresh your memory by excursions, going in picnics and doing athletic excercises. Don't be preoccupied by any silly subject.

happening to me alot lately also..dunno wats up n wats happeniing..when im talking to sumone, i wud forget what im talking in mid-sentence.am tooo scared to consult any docs!

Do I have anxiety?

On sunday, all I can think about is oh no, theres school tomorow. It honestly pops up in my head every minute at LEAST. I have a lot of trouble getting sleep on sundays, and I feel very depressed. On most other days, I feel fine though.

Answers: Maybe yes and maybe no. It is often difficult to 'diagnose' someone online, because you don't know the entire story. That is best left to a therapist.

However, if you are constantly thinking and worrying about a certain thing, you may very well have an anxiety problem. If you truly feel depressed that you have school and you are fearful, you need to think what might be the cause. Are there bullies in your school? Do you just have test anxiety? There are a multitude of possible explanations for every feeling. But if you truly are scared about going to school, you do need to deal with your phobia.

If it's a bullying problem, you should talk to a teacher. Most sympathetic teachers will try to change something without letting the bully know that you complained (ie: changing everyone's seats, not just the 2 of you; keeping an eye out at certain times, etc.) If it's a test anxiety problem, you should again talk to a teacher, specifically the teacher whose subject you have most trouble with. Go for extra help and try to read over your notes as often as possible every day. If you feel positive that you know the material, you will feel less nervous.

If you are depressed other days, you should get medical help. But since it's just about school, you can focus on the cause and work through your problem.

Good luck! :)

Yes that sounds like anxiety. Just breathe in and out deeply...clear your mind. Get some sleep and realize that school is inevitable and you have to go. So you suck it up and get some sleep.

Anxiety worsens when there is a lack of rest.

I don't know about you. But when I had anxiety, I couldn't breathe. It was weird like my throat clogged up unless I drank water then I could breathe for a few seconds. I drank a lot of water for a while. Then I went to the doctor and he gave me ADVAIR. It was right after 9-11 and I was flying to Hawaii for a family member's brain surgery. But I got better when I got back home.

You might have it, maybe you should go to a doctor or something and see what they say, or take sleeping pills sunday night.

I hope you get better. = ]

stay home and listen to music and then take it day by day good luck

Question about moving as a teenager and depression?

I'm a sophomore in high school, and I had lived in the same area (Town A) for 6 years. However, between 6th and 8th grade moved about across state, and quickly lost all contact with people from town A. I lived in the "new" home (town B) for two years. I was fairly happy the first year, by the second I felt like my life couldn't be better. I had amazing friends. But then we moved back to town A. I've lived here for three months now. Most of my old friends have accepted me back, and I've made new friends as well. I'm involved in school activities. Despite this though, I still feel depressed. I base my life around how long it is until I can call/visit my friends from town B. I still catch myself telling myself "I want to go home." I know that depression is fairly normal in teens while moving, but for this long? I still feel as bad as I did three weeks after I moved here. I have good friends who try to help, but I still feel awful. Is it normal to still have this depression after 3 months

Answers: That's a fair amount of instability to have in a relatively short period of time. I think more is at play here than just the moving around, though. Sophomore year is a pretty tough one for finding your niche in high school. As a freshman, you were the low man on the totem pole and everyone pretty much accepts that. Sophomore year is a step up, but still gets no respect thanks to the upperclassmen. Physiologically, you are a huge mess just due to your age!
Are you comfortable talking to a school counselor?
It's great you have friends who welcomed you back-that is something to be very happy about. You must have been a nice person for them to want to resume your friendship. Kids (shoot, even adults) don't stay in touch. Any more, people move on and just form new friendships.
Give this a bit more time, and be sure you are keeping yourself surrounded by positive people.

Stop thinking of it as deppression, your not sick, this is not a disease. Your just feeling down, its natural, **** happens. Live with it.

Eventually youll look back on your teenage years... and then just look forward again because you wont even remember why you looked back.

Need ways to wake me up?

im realy tired right now but wanna wake myself up and get my second wind even thou my mets lost again and im kinda pist but taking it better than i expected besides the point anyway what are good ways to wake myself up

Answers: Cold water on the face, sit ups, shower, COFFEE!

Coffee
Take a shower
Get up and move,like take a walk
Do something you like doing
Don't Read!!!!
More Coffee!!!

What are the signs of depression?

And how do you deal with it?

Answers: * Loss of interest in normal daily activities. You lose interest in or pleasure from activities that you used to enjoy.

* Depressed mood. You feel sad, helpless or hopeless, and may have crying spells.

In addition, for a doctor or other health professional to diagnose depression, most of the following signs and symptoms also must be present for at least two weeks.

* Sleep disturbances. Sleeping too much or having problems sleeping can be a sign you're depressed. Waking in the middle of the night or early in the morning and not being able to get back to sleep are typical.

* Impaired thinking or concentration. You may have trouble concentrating or making decisions and have problems with memory.

* Changes in weight. An increased or reduced appetite and unexplained weight gain or loss may indicate depression.

* Agitation. You may seem restless, agitated, irritable and easily annoyed.

* Fatigue or slowing of body movements. You feel weariness and lack of energy nearly every day. You may feel as tired in the morning as you did when you went to bed the night before. You may feel like you're doing everything in slow motion, or you may speak in a slow, monotonous tone.

* Low self-esteem. You feel worthless and have excessive guilt.

* Less interest in sex. If you were sexually active before developing depression, you may notice a dramatic decrease in your level of interest in having sexual relations.

* Thoughts of death. You have a persistent negative view of yourself, your situation and the future. You may have thoughts of death, dying or suicide.

Go to your doctor I did and I am now on medication that really helps. My life is so much better now it really is the difference between night and day. I am happy and was able to get a great job that I love. None of this was happening before.

I wish you the best.

Hope this helps.

When you lack the motivation to do things you once enjoyed. When you climb into bed and pull the covers up over your head. When you don't feel like getting showered or dressed and you just stay inside your shell and don't come out unless made to do so. You should talk with a good friend to start off with. Making yourself get out of your house is also a good thing to do. Just taking a short walk with a pet can be helpful. Putting on some happy tunes on the radio can lift your spirits. If you are really having a hard time talk with a professional and perhaps a prescription can be helpful. Get to the root of the cause of your depression and when you can figure out what the problems are you can take steps to fix them. Good luck.

Taking Lexapro. Memory and cognitivty have greatly improved!?

I'm in college right now and I have been on Lexapro since Wednesday (making it 5 days today). Before, I used to have to review my notes over and over to retain just some of the information. Now, I'm going through things once or twice and remembering so much! I'm learning things so much faster now and I feel like I'm sleeping so much better.

It's weird, though. The first say I took the medication I slept okay, but I woke up the next day and I felt as if the back of my brain was on fire. Haven't felt that since, but it was a bit scary.

Well, my question is: has anyone experienced this kind of improvement in such a short period of time? I know everyone is different, but I was told 2-3 weeks to notice change.

Also, will only continue to experience improvement in my mental functions? Thanks.

Answers: Yes, me too. I have taken Lexapro for about a period of two years. I did see that type of improvement as well. I think it has do with a focusing factor. Lexapro was the only anti-depressant that had no adverse side effects for me and was fairly inexpensive. Some don't understand. My Dr. told me it was an anti-depressive. I stated that I was really wasn't depressed but experiencing an 80 mile an hour mess (anxiety). Lexapro controls that just the same. It all has to do with the chemical imbalance in the brain. Warning: Do not stop taking the drug without your physicians supervision! I did this several times. After stopping you are not aware that you still need it. Outsiders can tell you and will see a change in behavior. They will see the changes and you will not recognize them. Also, if you stop cold turkey you will definitely experience "crash and burn". Your Dr. has to whein you from it gradually. I have not taken it for about 1 1/2 yrs but due to recent dilemmas, I am considering to start again..Good Luck and don't stop

Thats weird.When I was taking Lexapro it made me extremely forgetful.

Ok and I just read that you have only been taking it 5 days. It takes about a month for it to build in your system so that you may start to benefit.

I think maybe you are overthinking all of this. You have only been taking it 5 days.at the most you would be getting slight headaches.

Everyone reacts differently to all medications. This is a good thing for you. I had the same thing happen when I was going through health and work problems. I took Zoloft and it made me able to concentrate and get things done in an organized manner. After a couple of months I had to go off it because of other side effects and the crisis had passed with my job. So, enjoy and hopefully it will continue to make you feel and work better.

Help...Panic attack...?

Can someone talk me through this panic attack, please? I haven't had one in many years. Please someone, be there.

Answers: Try laying down and being completely still.place your hands on your lap. Breathe in and out deeply and pay attention to how the breath enters and leaves your body.

Try tightening muscle areas one by one and releasing the tension.

Try breathing in positive energy and breathing out the negative.

Focus on this and breathe out any negative thoughts.

Good luck.

Breathe - in.one, two, three..out...one, two, three.

Notice your chest rising and falling, concentrate on your breathing, just your breathing and nothing else.

Keeping breathing and counting - in.one, two, three and out.one, two, three.

How you going??

You could try a program like this. It's gaurenteed to work or your money back.

http://mortsllak.panicaway.hop.clickbank...

I think I am crazy.?

did anyone else make their barbie dolls do "it" as a kid?

Answers: yes, and no I don't think you are crazy. :)

You are not crazy.
You are starting to think about sexuality.
You are thinking about how males and females can behave.
They are your dolls and you can play with them in any way that you choose. You are in charge.

I didn't even know what "it" was when I was a kid. Kids grow up too fast nowadays! JMOHO!

Is it normal to have stress related erection problems?

Please help! I'm 22 and I have been with my special lady for 4 years now. I had a couple incidents where I simply couldnt get it up. Now that it's "working" again, i still freak out when the moment arises, fearing that those incidents will reoccur. In addition, it's causing problems in my relationship, and I'm afraid this could result in me losing her.

What should I do?

Answers: Just like extreme stress can affect a woman's cycle, so can it wreak havoc on a mans ability to get and/or maintain an erection. This, of course, is quite unsettling because without wood, we are useless. Do what you can to relax and, hopefully, your special lady has a few tricks up her sleeve that can help you out in your times of need. Good Luck

stress is an erection killer

spend more time thinking about you lady and not your issues otherwise you will be asking me for the site i buy my cialis at (i am 30 years older than you so i have an excuse)

if you really can not get your issues off your mind try spending time doing oral on your woman, when she starts to go crazy you should be thinking right.

good luck

3 days of taking Welbutrin have given me 3 days of headaches so how much longer should I be patient?

I know other antidepressants need a break in period for the body to adjust, but I'm not sure about this particular medication. I have had strong neck aches and headaches for 3 days now since starting it, but I'm not sure what is a reasonable adjustment period. Still hoping. thank you.

Answers: Your body will 'adjust' after a few more days. You may have other symptoms, but your body and brain will level out.
Stick with it; from what I understand about Welbutrin it works very well and is worth the 'break in period'!
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You gotta give it time to develop a therapeutic level of this anti depressant in your blood system. Why don't you ask your shrink how long that would take? Don't quit suddenly without your doctors supervision.

Meanwhile, take some Tylenol, do some neck rolls, go see a chiropractor or massage therapist to help get you back in your comfort level.

Hi I know the first two weeks are generally hard, but I had started with Cymbalta and I swear it made my head feel like it was being removed from my body.
Then I went to Lexapro which is milder but still had headaches, nausea, and a general kind of displaced feeling for about two weeks.
These things do work, but the getting on and off is sure tough.
I did read the pamplet though, and I think there is a website out there that you can go to find users of wellbutrin to see how they felt. Try drugs.com.
I went there after I was getting off so I could see if some of the things I was feeling were valid.
Good Luck either way.

Don't be patient. Go back to your shrink ASAP. Headaches bad enough to cause you to ask this question qualifies as a major side effect, most doctors will agree to see you immediately (in many cases they are required to) if you mention the words "debilitating side effect" to the reception staff.

Contrary to the ad copy, Welbutrin is somewhat notorious for producing bizarre and unpleasant side effects. Response to antidepressants is highly idiosyncratic('everyone is different'), some doctors prefer Welbutrin because it targets multiple neurotransmitter systems, and is a bit more likely to produce the desired effect on the first try; it seems to suppress addictive ideation in some cases, so it is sometimes preferred for "dual diagnosis" patients. Also, some people find it mildly euphoric, and really really happy patients don't complain about minor side effects.

In general, if there are no intolerable side effects, you should allow at least two weeks before expecting noticeable improvement when taking an antidepressant. Not fun, I know, but there it is.

Anyones child taking concerta 18 mg and seeing things that are not there?

my son age 6 has adhd and was givin concerta 18 mg on friday. he started taking it on saturday. well he couldnt sleep and said he was seeing monsters on the ceiling. and tonight he just acted realy wierd just staring at me. i kept saying his name and he just stared at me realy weird for like 5 mins. i have done research and found after taking it for long periods of time they can see things. but has anyone had this happen when just taking it? i dont know if he is just playing like children do. or if he is realy seeing things. i am going to call doctor in the am to speek with him about what is happening. but i also wanted so input from u guys

thanks

Answers: You call that doctor and get your son in ASAP. This drug is usually given to children for ADD/ADHD and I suggest you read The ADD Book, it talks about better ways to deal with the issue. I think you have better options than putting pills into your child.

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