For culture who hold self harmed, I really necessitate facilitate?
I honestly do not know what to do, and I don't have anyone within my life who can understand this when I tell them and i (esp not school) I maintain doing weird things like googling pictures of blood and stuff just to catch the feeling, but it doesn't help. Writing and drawing do not help. What do you guys do to cope beside urges? I'm so desperate. I do not know what to do, it's ruining my life on a daily basis.
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Unfortunately I know exactly what you're going through. I used to struggle with it every single day, literally approaching a drug. And with any drug, you get withdrawls you know? So I know what you mean. My unbroken story is really too personal to post up here, but if you wanna talk you can email me whenever you want at screamaimfire117(a)yahoo.com. And if you don't wanna that's fine too, I know I'm just some random girl lol, but any way you'll be in my prayers k =)
It's thorny. I know ): I completely understand.
SH is not something that just "Goes away" it takes time.
Try conversation to psych a little more about it? I know it's hard. But it help.
Try distracting yourself when you have the urges. Do something you enjoy, listen to music, watch a funny movie, steal a bath and relax. Do whatever!
Also, when your about to do it. Tell yourself to hang about 10 minutes, so you can try and calm down.
There's also holding ice, and using an elastic tie instead. I don't believe they help.
Just try keeping yourself busy (:
you should talk to someone...tell them how you be aware of... someone you trust....good luck,, dont use the razor i know it'll be very alluring... when you feel this way you should read a book r write poetry... Source(s): ex cutter,,, thats what i do when i feel close to this...
yeah i do the same article cut and stuff and i tried to stop i tried writing reading drawing but none helped only stopped me for a week but i have some friends that tried hurting them selves but surrounded by a less harm way close to paper cuts or punching the wall or squeezing something when u feel like adjectives they said it helped
gd luck
You and I are in equal situation. Wanna talk over email? nlucy01(a)yahoo.com (:
Holding ice usually helps me, or papercuts.
exactly everything you said happened to me, back in june it get really bad so i went to a hospital and got a phycologist (which turned out to be a stereotypical *****) and phyciatrist! and i go almost 3 months without doing it (which was SUPER LONG to me) but ruined my record this sunday (my parents found out i snuck out, longgg story) but anyways the passageway to not do it is take the razor, go outside, close your eyes, and throw it. i swear its the right entry to do, ANDDDDD the pills im on have EXTREMELY helped me, (i can tell incentive when im not on them im depressed..) the pills are called limictal & deplin!
get better & do what i said about the blade! and i HIGHLY reccomend the pills (there expensive though :( hopefully u have insurance)
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I have written a lot before this, but somehow everything that I wrote disappeared and my answer consisted of only everything from technique and below.
I wanted to say that I know how you're feeling. I've be to the hospital numerous times, have been to "psyche ward" type places (more of behavioral health centers), own had to get stitches 4 different times... on 2 cuts one of those times, and on 7 cuts another of those times...so on 10 cuts total.
So, I know how you feel. And it's the hardest piece in the world to stop, but YOU have to make that try. You have to try and be willing to. If you go within to it thinking "this isn't going to work", you'll be right. It's not. You have to really believe in yourself and really try and try hard.
I've never thought professional aid was all that helpful. Counselors and therapist are paid to care, and doctors just try to evolution you as if you're the problem, but aren't changing the situation that's making you unhappy. Not helpful at adjectives.
1 -- The rubber band technique. This one is simple... just wear a rubber band around your wrist. Whenever you presume you need physical pain, pull it and release it so that it snaps against your skin.
2 -- The butterfly technique. I if truth be told really like this one, even though it sounds kind of odd... Draw a butterfly on your paw, and name it after someone you know and love. If you cut yourself before that butterfly fades, you've kill the person that you named it after.
3 -- The marker technique. This is another one that I savour. Just taking a red marker and marking your skin. You can press as hard as you want, and deed as if this is something real. It actually kind of a short time ago gives me a thirst for the whole cutting entity, but it makes me quite happy to do. I expect, you can do it as savagely as you want without anyone having to watch..of late take your stress out on yourself in a healthier bearing... I suppose I definitely recommend doing this one pre-shower. I occasionally take one into the bathroom with me, and run through the process of marker-ing myself right before I shower. It's pretty nice.
4 -- This one is rather similar to the marker technique. I usually store tags after buying something... like price tags or brand dub tags...you know? So, putting those against your skin and slicing with them definitely is relieving to me. It really doesn't do anything (unless you pick an eccentrically sharp and jagged tag, which I don't recommend), but it feels pretty great. I usually don't use the corners, but newly put the tag flat against my skin and swipe. I also love using red-ish or pink-ish eye shadow or blush. You can use an eye shadow tool sideways and slice with them... it makes a heavy color, while also feeling of it moving across your skin.
I'm also a huge fan of writing instead. I mean, sure it sounds depressing and lonely, but is that not what I'm opinion inside? It's almost just as relieving to have your feelings in black and white...so you can actually try to understand the complex feelings that you're going through. Sometimes I write to specific culture (usually people that I feel are "ignoring" me, so I kind of newly "tell" them are I feel about that and endless people-would-think-I'm-crazy style of stuff).
Also, weening yourself off of cutting IS possible. Just try to resist, just once. It will catch easier. I find it quite helpful... just to confine myself. Sometimes I can become angry I'm not satisfied with the depth or length of the cut (I'm so weird, sometimes I prefer short thoughtful ones which are just really hard to do, and I continuously try until I can't control all of the bleeding)... but I've well-read to be consciously aware of this... I mostly just FORCE myself not to do more. One to a few is just enough. When you've mastered that, try completely resisting once. Just hang around until the next day, that's all. When you be paid it to the next day, go right ahead if you be aware of like you must. Control the depth, don't go too deep.
You're other welcome to email me (lifeindrive1990(a)yahoo.com) if you need to talk. It's other extremely helpful to have someone to talk to. Much more conscientious if that person is in person (like an elder friend, or a cousin), but I'm always ready to talk if you have need of to. :)
Best of luck! Feel free to email me, as I said above. :)
Edit -- One more thing that my aunt introduced me to, and I find it unbelievably helpful.
You're supposed to find something pleasant for each one of your senses.
Like verbs. Look at a picture of someone you care about (or something you care around, like if you have a pet). Save notes that someone special writes to you, print out the emails they transport and read those, whatever it takes...
Or for scent, smell some sort of perfume that reminds you of someone... or smell some certain food.. This might come across silly, but I seriously do have a shirt that I haven't worn in over a year simply because it smells like my cousin's house. And I adore that. Smell is most distinctly related with memory, and it's definitely the most helpful one. Or you can even in recent times spray some piece of cloth with a scent that reminds you of something pleasant. Or you can go outside, smell the outdoors of that helps. I also in fact had to get 17 sterie strips (they're an alternative to stitches) while I was at my cousins a few months ago. They own this absolutely GROSS smelling stuff that you spread around the cuts to help the strips stick and stay there. I somehow grew to love that scent, a moment ago because it reminds me of being there...
Touch -- This is a hard one. I've tried to hug stuffed animals or blankets, and adjectives of that usually just makes me feel more alone. My aunt in truth gave me a little glass heart (the one contained by my pic), and I hold that thing all the time. If you can hold those letters or proceedings they may have written to you, hold something that was a gift, hold someONE even, that would be great. If adjectives fails...hold yourself. It doesn't have to be something dumb, just be surrounded by private, at night, in your bed, comfort yourself. Sure it sounds dumb, but I actually find it caring to fantasize about what it would be like to be helped, fantasize nearly what it would be like to have that person that care (even if they have to be a made-up person) here, and what I would tell them (even though I really wouldn't let somebody know them much, I'm pretty chicken when it comes to talking), and what they might say back. Sometimes I hold my own hand, because my cousin would other hold my hand when I was there, and it reminds me of her. I'd squeeze my own mitt 3 times because that's something we did there. First for "I" second for "love" and third for "you".
Taste -- Chocolate seriously does release endorphins. Just like cutting. My cousin give me the idea of keeping "emergency chocolate" somewhere where I can always go and get it. She made me a little cardboard box (which said "emergency chocolate" on it) that could hold a candy bar or something. Or just chomp through something you enjoy, calm those taste buds. ;) Don't be concerned something like the fattening qualities, you can walk those off. You don't call for to eat A LOT of something, maybe just a bit of chocolate, for a while ice cream, maybe you can melt string cheese within the microwave for 12 seconds (yum!).... anything you enjoy eating.
Hearing -- Listen to music. I ADORE Owl City, if you entail something to listen to. And Copeland (the newest CDs of both of these people are best, but really, I love all of Owl City's songs). If someone have left a voicemail on your phone that you appreciated, listen to that. Record it (I actually record a video of it, next record the sound of that video back on to my phone), and play it whenever you call for to hear that person's voice. Or, better yet, just CALL that person. :) I love discussion to people on the phone, and I've always found that quite of use.
I hope all of this helps, and I hope you can get out of that situation.
I know exactly how you feel. I had a thorny time separating myself from the razor, it was an addiction. It's because cutting releases endorphin, which kill pain, so basically you're doing it so it wouldn't hurt. I don't need to put in the picture you that, lol.
Change your habits, or your personality, get spanking new friends, read dirty books and hook up with guys, find the guts to do anything you want.
I don't remember how I got over it. I think I've taken up writing and changed friends, found some unusual ones, went to a couple of parties.
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